Self-Check-in(s)

It’s February. If you made New Year’s Resolutions, and did not keep them, it’s okay. Most people do not. That is why I am a big fan of ongoing check-ins – daily, weekly, monthly, yearly… to assess how things are going for me personally, socially, intellectually, spiritually, creatively, leisurely, joyfully, academically, and professionally. These check-ins are less daunting and more enjoyable to explore.  You can easily build them into your busy life. 

Ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment?” Spend a few minutes really noticing what shows up for you. Is it friendships? Alone time? Healthy foods? Sunshine? Movement? Having fun? You already know the answers, but it often takes an intentional pause to pay attention to your thoughts. Make this simple reflection part of your regular routine while you are:  taking a walk, folding laundry, cleaning house, waking up, brushing your teeth, showering… What do you notice? 

1.     Be curious. Allow yourself the headspace to focus on what is going on in your mind and body when you think about habits you want to change or goals you want to make. What do you enjoy? What are your strengths? And, most importantly, what are your values in this moment?  

2.     Become self-aware. Once we are aware of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, emotions around a specific life area, then we can find ways to make creative adjustments. 

3.     Make tiny tweaks. Every tiny change and small step will get you closer to where you want to be and that is what really matters day to day. If you want more sunshine, drink your coffee in front of the window. If you need friend time, find a time to take a walk or talk on the phone while folding laundry. If you need more movement, walk around the block or go outside to play with your kids or dog. 

4.     Have self-compassion. Remember that taking a side-step instead of a step forward is part of the process. This happens to everyone. Instead of getting frustrated, be kind to yourself. 

Think of some of events, people, or things that bring a smile to your face. What memories show up? What have you accomplished? What made you laugh? What was fun? 

Notice how you feel when you think of these positive moments. 

Get curious about what you want for yourself in 2022 in different areas of life (home, work, community, social, financially, spirituality, fun). What will it look like when you do this or make this change? 

Have fun exploring!